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Telling White Lies

Updated on June 26, 2019

Have you ever told a white lie to be kind, to protect the feelings of others, or maybe to simply avoid stigma? You're not alone.

For some living with a chronic condition, telling a white lie can be a way to save one's strength. Sometimes it's easier not to share your unvarnished truth, especially when it doesn't hurt anyone else.

Have you ever found yourself saying any of the following?

1. "No, no. I can do it myself."
2. "I'm not scared/nervous/anxious/unsure."
3. "I'm fine. Really."
4. "Don't worry. I'm used to this."
5. "No, I'm not in much pain."

Here are some conversations from the community about this topic:

"I hate to say this but my family is getting on my nerves. It's like I'm trying to concentrate on myself but they act like I'm not sick and depend heavily on me, so I push through."

"Unfortunately, my mother and sister are not supportive, and I've had no contact with them because of their toxicity. I need calm and peace in my life right now."

"My family is great but there are things and feelings that they just can’t understand."

Why do you choose a white lie over sharing your true feelings?
What do you wish you could say instead?

A MyMyelomaTeam Member said:

Oh yes, for 33yrs. I lied to keep the peace. Sometimes it was just to not hurt another's feelings. Now, one should not ask for my opinion unless they really want the truth.

posted 13 days ago

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