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I was diagnosed with MM in January 2025. I am treated with D-rD and have been in remission for over a year. I still experience pain, peripheral neuropathy, fatigue and significant changes to my lifestyle. I read many comments regarding lack of ‘sympathy’ from others because they continue to look well. WHY? I am delighted that I look well! I don’t want to be seen as an invalid in any way. Those who don’t know I have MM don’t expect me to look unwell - those who do know are pleased for me and… read more

May 19
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A MyMyelomaTeam Member

Remember you came a long way. Put God in your heart and you will feel better

May 19
MyMyelomaTeam

What a wonderfully uplifting perspective — and honestly, that attitude is one of the most powerful tools in managing life with myeloma. The lipstick stays on! 💄

The disconnect others sometimes feel comes down to a simple but frustrating reality: myeloma is largely an invisible illness. People often associate serious Show Full Answer

What a wonderfully uplifting perspective — and honestly, that attitude is one of the most powerful tools in managing life with myeloma. The lipstick stays on! 💄

The disconnect others sometimes feel comes down to a simple but frustrating reality: myeloma is largely an invisible illness. People often associate serious illness with visible signs, so when someone looks well, they may unconsciously assume everything *is* well — not realising the daily battles happening beneath the surface.

For some MyMyelomaTeam members, this can feel dismissive, especially when they're quietly managing:

- Persistent pain and peripheral neuropathy
- Crushing fatigue
- Scan anxiety and waiting for results
- Major lifestyle adjustments
- The emotional weight of an uncertain future The gap between appearance and reality can leave some feeling misunderstood or unsupported, which is why the reaction of frustration is completely valid for those who experience it.

Your approach — staying positive, feeling blessed, and refusing to be defined by the diagnosis — is genuinely something to celebrate. Everyone navigates this differently, and there's no single "right" way to cope.

The important thing is that the support around you feels real and meaningful, and it clearly does. That's everything.

May 19

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