Hi Paul,
I’ve actually read literature that said a cancer that was not curable is a terminal illness. Multiple Myeloma isn’t like most cancers. It can be managed for years for some people. Some have it for 10 or 20 years and die of old age. I have 2 cousins who have had it for over a decade. They are both fortunate to have wives who take care of them. I hope your wife sees her role as your helper. She may need a little bit of education about your type of MM. Maybe your Hematologist can talk to her at your next appointment.
Paula🌹
August 30, 2025
While it's true that myeloma currently doesn't have a definitive cure, the outlook is more nuanced than simply being "terminal." More than 90% of people respond to their first round of treatment, and many achieve remission. About 61% of people live 5 or more years after diagnosis, and these survival rates continue to Show Full Answer
While it's true that myeloma currently doesn't have a definitive cure, the outlook is more nuanced than simply being "terminal." More than 90% of people respond to their first round of treatment, and many achieve remission. About 61% of people live 5 or more years after diagnosis, and these survival rates continue to improve with advancing treatments.
Some people stay in remission for years or even decades. For many, myeloma can be managed as a chronic condition with ongoing treatment. When talking with your wife, acknowledge her feelings while also focusing on the hopeful aspects:
• New treatments are constantly being developed
• Many people achieve long-lasting remissions
• Stem cell transplants can be curative in some cases
• Current treatments are effective at managing symptoms and controlling the disease
• Each person's journey with myeloma is unique
Remember that it's natural for both of you to experience complex emotions about the diagnosis. Having open conversations with your healthcare team can help provide clarity and support during this journey.
August 29, 2025